IS MY MARRIAGE HONOURING GOD? Help! Must I do all my husband says?

Sometimes we find it difficult to understand the dynamics of love and submission in a marriage.

Honouring God in our marriage is the center that holds all things. We honour God and express it by honouring each other. We honour what He is saying to us and how He is leading us in our current season. This is why it is truly about honouring God in each other. It also means recognizing God and deferring to Him. Deferring to God by default is deferring to the chain of command in the home, which places the husband as the head (A general rule before any exception) Ephesians 5:23.

The general rule is not about the wife being silent, but about recognizing that God will reach her husband and hold him responsible for matters concerning their home (before He holds her responsible.) And on the other hand, the husband recognizing when God is speaking through His wife. This can only happen when he honours God, take a cue from Abraham and Sarah in Genesis 21:9-12.

The husband is called to leave his parents and cleave to his wife. The wife is called to adapt and submit to her husband. Ephesians 5:22,31. Is it about the husband or wife? It is about God. God must be at the center! 

There is a “new thing” God establishes in every home, and this must become our priority and focus. Sometimes it comes through the husband, other times through the wife. This is why some couples marry and begin attending the wife's church, but when you look closely, it is not necessarily about the husband’s or wife’s home church; it is about being at the place that carries the revelation for the new thing God is doing with them— it could be where they met, or where they can both submit to a shepherd who can lead them into the next phase God is calling them to. 

 In the instance of Ananias and Sapphira, Abigail, Mary and Joseph ( Acts 5:1-10, 1Samuel 25:2-38 , Matthew 1:18-20) we see that there can be no unity against God, and no honour against God. Either person has to take a stand for God regardless of their position when the other is not in alignment with Him.

Wives walking in the flesh hide under the default pattern of "submission" and husbands walking in the flesh hide under the default of “loving their wives” instead of taking a stand with God. They fear losing the privileges that come from false peace. Do not observe lying vanities and forsake your mercy, your way out is already in God. Take it and redeem the marriage. It is your only hope of redeeming the union: following God. Matthew 10:32; Mark 9:23.

When we are not sure about a matter, our default should be what is already revealed or written in the Scriptures. But when you are hearing God, that is a sure mercy. Do not forsake it—speak up, act, and leave the rest to Him. Never in rebellion, but in an attitude of submission. One can disobey an earthly order while remaining in submission to a higher divine order, walking in meekness and not arrogance.

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