MARRIAGE CAN BE A PIECE OF CAKE

What exactly has cake got to do with a marriage, you may ask?

I believe I can safely assume that we have all tasted a piece of cake before, well we may not all have made one but we sure have tasted one. In the same vein, we have all heard the phrase 'as simple as a piece of a cake'

Now I have eaten and made cakes before and I can tell you that when people say 'as simple as a piece of cake' I ask what kind of cakes exactly. Well cutting the cake is sure a very easy task but baking it is not very easy. To get the precise and fantastic cake you want, your measurements must be accurate.

This is to say the title of the book likening marriage to a piece of cake is not an attempt to trivialize the intricacies and the work a marriage requires but it is to liken the process of making a cake to a marriage.

Marriage is a process of becoming one just like baking a cake is a process of a lot of ingredients becoming a delight to the eyes and the mouth.

The thought the author follows through the book is that 'a love relationship can be likened to a cake well baked and decorated'. You will agree with me that it takes a professional to make a fantastic cake. I live with a professional baker so trust me when I say there are cakes and there are cakes!

A good cake must look and taste good. Have you ever seen a well decorated beautiful cake that is 'on fleek' but when it is cut and shared it is burnt and tastes horrible?

Therefore it is not by looks alone but by the taste also. The purpose of this school is to make you into a professional lover by the standard of God. That your love relationships will be a reflection of the relationship between Christ and the Church.

It is therefore possible that we have a head knowledge of some of the scriptures and teachings about marriage but a practical understanding of it may be lost.

Notice Ephesians 3:19 (Amp) says that you may really come to know practically through experience for yourselves the love of Christ. The aim of this school is to bring you to a state of 'knowing practically for yourself'. It is not about principles or rules but about the Spirit of God enlightening our heart unto all truth and dispelling all old wives fables where marriage is concerned.

In light of the above, 

1. Is experience in marriage equals to truth of the Word of God concerning marriage and how much experience of the teacher of the Word should we adhere to?
2.What should our posture be to the things we will be learning in this school?
3.How do we come to know practically for ourselves?

My answers;
1.We should only learn from experience when it is in alignment with God's Word. Other reactions to situations that bring out attributes which has no footing with the word of God should be discarded. E.g. The way to a man's heart is food and other myths of that kind.
2. Our posture should be that of a student who is learning for distinctions. Such students are the ones that ask questions, search the recommended texts (the Bible) and meditate on their findings until it becomes their truth.
3. It can only be an experience when we act out the truth that we have come into. The outcome of our actions will become our practical experience.